Losing someone as special as Jane has left a massive impact on all our lives. Jane posted on an earlier entry that she didn't think I was prepared for her death. That was a massive understatement. It hit me between the eyes like an inter city express. The sense of loss and loneliness is all consuming and nothing anyone says helps to appease it. Last thing at night and first thing in the morning are the very worst times as grief takes a grip of every thought.....
I know what Jane will be saying right now, " For goodness sake Martin, my journey is over, if you want to go posting start your own blog !" Ok Ok I might just do that...
Before I go I would like to thank a few people.
I would like to thank all her blog family. She took so much pride in this blog and loved to read your kind comments. It meant everything to her to hear how it has helped so many people in similar situations.
I would like to thank Team Jane with a special mention for her GP, Dr Arora who always told her that she was not a patient but part of his family and to Dr Pofiri who fought tirelessly for the cancer drugs for her and that extended her life for just over three wonderful years.
I would like to thank St Mary's Hospice and the wonderful nurses for the care and consideration they gave to Jane that made her consider it her second home and for the care, help and support they gave to both of us in those final terrible hours.
Jane's funeral will be held on Friday 11th June 2010. If anyone would like details please feel free to email on ....ThompsonB31@aol.com
That leaves just me to thank everyone for their thoughts and prayers and thankyou for reading about and sharing in Jane's wonderful journey.
I will leave you with a quote from Edward,
'Its not the years in your life that count, its your life in those years."
Kindest Regards
Martin
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- Jane Thompson
- Hi my name is Jane, I'm 40-something years old and I have just been diagnosed with Kidney Cancer. This Blog is mainly for my benefit, not to be self pitying or self indulgent but because I find it really helps, it’s a kind of therapy for me.
22 comments:
May God bless you and your family at this time,I said before Jane will never leave you, Forever in your heart and always by your side, draw on this, you can not hear her voice but you can hear her thoughts in your innermost being,she will be with you as you lay her body to rest,and would expect you to know she feels you pain and knows when your tears fall,Bless you Martin may you find peace.
I fully understand your feelings and echo Tinkerbell's comments. I am never any good at putting in to words what I want to but Jane's courage and determination gave me hope and inspiration in my own fight with cancer, she was a bright star in a dark time for me.
Andy
You are all in my thoughts and I can still feel Jane willing us all on in our battle, she will never be forgotten, may June 11th give you time to reflect on all the good she has achieved and know her fight will go on through us all in this battle against cancer. We owe her a great debt of gratitude for the strength she showed and gave us through just being Jane. xxx
Hi Martin,
Hope you have love and support around you.
Nothing can compensate for the loss of your darling nothing can.
Hope you can find some relief from your great pain.
Perhaps in time you will be able to enjoy the moment again in the knowledge that is what your darling Jane would want for you
Thinking of you.
Love,
Herrad
I am so pleased you came back to do this entry Martin thankyou ,please stay with us ,or start your own blog as you wish ,then we can be here for you as we were for Jane and as she was for us, I will be thinking of you all on the 11th May God Bless and comfort all of you ...love Jan xx
Martin,thanks for this,as you know jane was special to many.not least to me.you are all in my thoughts,and jane will never be forgotten by those of us lucky enough to call her our friend.you take care,if you find it helps,start your own blog,it helped jane.it helps me.and so many more.may i wish you peace,and memories of your jane,always in your heart.mort. i cant tell you how sad i am martin.i really cant.
i think starting your own blog is a fantastic idea! jane's journey is sadly over.. but yours is not.. i have my own blog that has been used to help me process loosing my dad to this horrid monster we call cancer... it has helped me in more ways than i can express...
I want to thank you for sharing your Jane with us for these few short years. As I continue my own RCC journey, I will always remember her strength, her courage,and I will do my best to make her proud! But most of all, I will remember her wonderful sense of humour, such an essential and important part of this journey. Although I cannot be with you on June 11, I will be there in spirit. My very best wishes to you Martin and the family as you enter this new chapter of your lives. Remember Jane with much love, but find your way to getting great pleasure and enjoyment out of each day of the rest of YOUR life - that is what Jane would insist upon! Hugs, as always, from across the pond.
God be with you Martin!!
Thanks for keeping on posting. The journey you are now on is very special and very hard. We are here to help support you. Jane was a very wonderful woman. May she rest in peace.
Martin,
We'll be with you in spirit if not in person on Friday as you lay Jane's body to rest. Her journey is now complete, but you will carry on. If you start a new blog, let us know. For now, grieve your loss and take your time.
Dear Martin,
I will be thinking of you and your family on the 11th as you lay Jane's body to rest. Her beautiful spirit will go on inside many of us too. May you remember all the good times more often than those last days of hers here on earth.
God bless you all.
Jeanie
HIYA MARTIN...
YOU HAVE BEEN ON MY MIND ALL WEEK...
I DON'T REALLY KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO YOU.. I DON'T THINK THERE ARE ANY WORDS REALLY...
PLEASE STAYY IN TOUCH..UKGAL36@AOL.COM IS MY EMAIL...
SHE IS STILL WITH YOU ..ALWAYS AND FOREVER IN YOUR HEART...
Thanks for your post, again it magnifies the love you had for Jane and how terribly you will miss her, I'll be thinking of you and your family on June 11th.
go ahead start your own blog you have been very special to us in J-land :)
Yasmin
xx
A friend sent me this poem when I lost my Dad 11 years ago now. I remember that I couldn´t read past the first 6 lines, it was too painful. Now I often read it and and always smile when I think of him. Here goes it´s long and I´m not very fast writing either.
A LETTER FROM HEAVEN.
To my dearest family, some thing I´d like to say, but first of all to let you know I arrived o.k.
I am writing this from heaven where I dwell with God above, where there´s no pain, tears or sadness, there is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I´m out of sight, remember that I´m with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when life on Earth was through, God picked me up and hugged me and said "I welcome you"
It´s good to have you back again,you were missed while you were gone,as for your dearest family, they´ll be here later on.
Then God gave me a list of things he wanted me to do , and foremost on that list of mine is to watch and care for you.
And I will be beside you every day, week and year and when you´re sad I´m standing there to wipe away the tear.
When you think of my life on Earth , and all those living years, because you´re only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
Do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain, but I´m here waiting to see you smile again.
It was always my philosophy and I´d like it for you too, that as you give into the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who has sorrow or pain, then you can say to God at night my life was not in vain.
And now I am contented that my life was worthwhile, knowing that as I passed along I made someone smile.
When you are walking down the street and you´ve got me on your mind, I´m walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when you feel gentle breeze or wind upon your face, that´s me giving you a gentle hug or just a soft embrace.
And when it´s time for you to go from that body to be free, remember you´re not going, you are coming here to me.
And I will always love you from that land up above- will be in touch again soon.
PS. God sends his love.
Love to you and your family Denise.
That quote is amazing Edward....sooo very true and something that we should all think about.
Thinking of you all.
Deb
Martin you and your family are in my special thoughts and prayers. May you all find the peace in your hearts that Jane found, it's what she'd want for all of you who love her. Bless you.
My prayers and thoughts are with and your family at this time.
Martin, Jane will certainly be missed by so many. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so very sorry.
Sending along my deepest sympathy to you & Jane's entire family and her friends. And thank you Martin for posting on Jane's behalf with these last details regarding her service. May you feel a supernatural peace as you go thru the coming days & months. Linda in Washington state
Praying for your family.
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