Tuesday, 5 January 2010

..update

This is proving to be a long and very tiring road. Jane's leg has still not healed so we cannot start the physio she so desperately needs to get her strength back. She becomes exhausted with just a short walk with her frame and then gets upset because she is so tired.
I must admit that continually looking on the bright side has become a little strained lately because progress is so slow. The UK gripped in the big freeze and the moment doesn't help either. At present, like most places, it is snowing heavily and the prospect of having to walk to work tomorrow is a real one. There just seems no end to it, up early, get Jane out of bed with a coffee, cook her something to eat, help her wash then back to bed, then get myself ready and off to work. Poor Ed, her seems almost forgotten in the mornings as he left to fend for himself. Then in the when I get home, make sure Jane is ok, start the evening meal, do a washing load and then sit down and have to watch 'most haunted' because Jane has got the remote for the 'sky sports' tv. AND THE GOLF COURSE IS SHUT..!!!

Martin

15 comments:

LYN said...

KEEP YOUR CHIN UP MARTIN..YOU'RE DOING AGREAT JOB!! JUST KEEP ON KEEPING ON..AND SPRING WILL BE HERE BEFORE YOU KNOW IT..MY HUBBY IS A BIG GOLFER TOO!!

Deb said...

Hang in there Martin..I know this must be a very difficult time for not only Jane, but for you as well. We are ALL rooting for you both so don't let us down now.
Give Jane my love and tell her that my thoughts and prayers are coming her way for a faster healing of that leg. It just takes sooo long for something like that to get better, but it will!!! Tell her to remember that it's the adversity we endure that helps to make us stronger.
Hang in and hang on my friends....there will be better days ahead....sending best wishes to you all from across the BIG pond..
Debbie

Sybil said...

Dear Martin, It is such a long and hard path that you are all going along at the moment. Bless you both. The time of the year and the weather does not help in any way does it. Still it is getting slightly lighter each night and we will soon be through the worst of the winter (fingers crossed LOL)
Our prayers are with you both constantly,
Just try to hang on in there loves.
God Bless and much love
Sybil xx

Rose said...

Oh Martin - I wish I was nearer so I could give a hand to keep up and also give you both a hug. What a desperate situation for you all. Having endless love and good thoughts flowing from everyone you know is great, but when push comes to shove, it's you trying to cope 24 hrs a day and Jane knowing you are trying to cope and you both being brave and trying not to let each other see what this is doing to you. Bastard Disease.

Much love Rose W

Jackie said...

I think Rose has really said it all x Hope it gets better for all of you over the coming few days. We too are snowed in, John took his quad out today in the snow and 'rescued' a woman struggling with her shopping, (not sure she wanted to be rescued though :-) ) and he helped a guy to tow his car up a hill with no trouble at all. Seems his retirement gift to himself has become useful after all. I take back all I said about it when he first said he was getting a quad! I'm missing my mac club friends and feel a bit isolated too but at least we have the internet and it's so nice to read your blog Jane and Martin. Take care and accept any help offered! Jackie xx

Alexei said...

Rose said it far better than I could. Can you reach out to anyone Martin for someone to spell you for a bit perhaps? Being the principal caregiver is a hard load on both of you, I hope you can get some help/visitors. Best wishes for a quick improvement in the weather too.

ADB said...

Martin,
It is only too understandable to be frustrated if the other half is continually hogging the remote - only kidding, you'll understand. It is a painfully slow process you are BOTH going through, and it is quite difficult to keep on the bright side.

Funnyface said...

Hello Martin,
reading your last entry took me back to when i was caring for my Mum. Like you i was working full time and in the end i was exhausted and had to ask McMillian Nurses for help - they were marvellous. You are looking after Jane really well and she is so lucky to have you and i guess you say you are really lucky to have her too. Smiles, kisses and hugs all round.
Jaynee X

mortonlake said...

in my thoughts martin.i know what its like.you just mind you dont make YOURSELF ill.have you got a relief carer service there?in norfolk its crossroads. they provide care for carers.maybe worth looking at.give jane my love,all the best,mort

pam said...

Martin. You are simply wonderful. I totally appreciate where you are coming from. Wish things could Improve for you both. Keeping you both close. Love Pam.xx

tinkerbell said...

Martin it must be so very hard for you to watch Jane struggle to recover she is such a determid lady andI know you are a rock for her, I continue to watch hope and pray for better news and I know it will come soon

karen said...

Rose really did say it all - damned cancer! please allow others to help you out Martin - the better cared for you are, the better you are able to care for Jane. Thoughts from all of us near & far are with you daily. Hugs to you both from across the pond,
Karen in Ottawa Canada

Lori said...

Hang in there! It must be very difficult, but what a blessing you are to Jane right now. I hope the leg begins healing soon, and hopefully as the weather gets better, so will everything else.

Shirley said...

Martin Hang in there mate.. Jane at least you are surrounded by your wonderful caring family, and you ve got a got caring husband there. He is the best...
Sending Love to you both,
Shirley xx

Maria Stepek Doherty said...

Ah, Martin! As someone at the beginning of her journey with this disease (left kidney and vena cava resection on 21st Nov) my heart goes out to all the carers who are our greatest, most loving support. I can already see the toll it has taken on my husband, mother and 19 year old son. We might not always find the words but we love and appreciate all that you do so much.