Thursday, 10 April 2008

Just the two of us.....

 

Monday -  and yet another CT scan.  Only this time, despite the numerous ones Ive had before, I was really nervous.  Martin had a meeting so couldnt come with me so Catherine tagged along - hoping to see some young hunky doctors no doubt.

I was sitting in the waiting room drinking yet another litre of Castrol GTX when Dr M walked past - stopped - looked at me and said "Oh hello Jane - I didnt recognise you without your twin!"

He meant Martin ofcourse.  This really brought into focus what tremendous support Ive had from him over the past 14 months.  Hes always been there - throughout every operation/procedure/treatment/consultation Ive had.  Quietly supportive, taking his lead from me, joking when I do, quiet when I am.  How incredibly lucky I am and I must never ever take this for granted. 

Serious illnesses can sometimes drive a couple apart.  The stress and strain of what they are both going through is at times too much for a relationship to bear.  It seems to have brought Martin and I closer - no, it HAS brought us closer.  We are definitely stronger as a couple, more caring and considerate of each other.  I guess that shows what love really is after 26 years of marriage.

All I know is I would never have got as far as this without him.  I would have withered without his quiet strength, his gentle encouragement....... and his awful jokes !

 

 

 

 

8 comments:

jeadie05 said...

Give him a hug from me ,for being such a great bloke as you say some men dont cope well with illness ,but your man ,loves you and is a gem God Bless him ...love Jan xx

pamal3 said...

I almost threw my Horlicks about myself wheni read the castrol gtx bit! lol. That's twice this week! Dr M. sounds like my kind of man. I am pleased you and martin are so close. It's lovely. Y'know, I have a lot of explaining to do If anyone looks at pics!, cos I copied the picture at the top of your page, which I took to be Martin! lol. Why? I hear you ask! lol, well, I wanted to see If I was seeing him correctly with just shorts on In the snow!!! Lol. I am shivvering just looking at that! lol. ;-) Love Pam xx
http://journals.aol.co.uk/pamal3/almost-40/

cayasm said...

Martin is your rock, it must be such a comfort to have him be so loving, caring, and supportive.

Take care

Yasmin
xx

pharmolo said...

You're very lucky that you have such great support around you :-)

thompsonb31 said...

It took Jane ages to get that shot. I think she kept me standing out there on purpose.... I was bl**dy freezing as you would probably see if I wasn't wearing my extra baggy shorts. Martin (hubby) AKA Nurse Martin

peytonswater said...

I think indeed, that man in the picture may possibly be crazier then I am!
That is amazing to have someone that supportive. No insult to men, but typically they are rare to be considered a noted *twin*. I hope it's going well. I am a new reader :)
Angie ~ PeytonsWater

cvgflydis said...

I think that is about the best picture on the net.........a man half clothed, in freezin water, just because you asked him too,
Oh, and not so hard on the eyes, either~
Glad he's been a great support to you!

Angel

chevyz71gurl74 said...

So glad to know you have such a supporting, loving husband by your side....Just looking at that pic....makes me cold...lol

Hugs
Terri